I love New Year’s resolutions. No, I don’t always keep them, and sure, most of them are neglected by mid-February. But…
Oh yes, there’s a ‘but’ in there. A big one. It doesn’t matter how much I fail in keeping them, I still love them. I love thinking about them, I love making new ones every year, I love modifying them if necessary, and sure, I love abandoning them too (sometimes).
For me, personal resolutions are less about pushing myself toward an unrealistic and unachievable goal, and more about an amazing opportunity for introspect. (Tweet this)
In the crazy world we live in, full of appointments, social media notifications, and crowded email boxes, we hardly have time to examine our own thoughts in depth, let alone act on them. If you’re like me, then most of your days go something like this:
1. Wake up
2. Eat Breakfast (if you have time)
3. Workout (if you have time)
4. Go to work (in whatever field, including parenthood, which in an of itself is a full-time job without pay or benefits. For me this includes the afford mentioned occupation, plus writing, plus data-entry, plus homeschooling teacher)
5. Eat Lunch (if you have time)
6. Keep working
7. Eat dinner (probably store bought or something along those lines unless you feel guilty for having binged on those chocolate bonbons, cake, or cookies you had lying around, in which case you go without dinner too)
8. Watch TV (if you don’t fall asleep)
9. Go to bed
Did you notice all the ifs? If, if, if. I hate that word. Along with when. When I have time. When I finish that. When I get to it. You get the point. Our lives are ran by the ifs and whens of an unforgiving creditor, the only creditor that doesn’t extend its loans. And all the while, we guilt-trip ourselves and drive our own self-esteems into the ground because we aren’t doing enough, we aren’t achieving enough, we aren’t healthy enough, or pretty enough, or strong enough, or whatever it is our inner voices of destruction are telling us we aren’t.
This is why I love New Year’s resolutions, because I like to use this special, once-in-a-year opportunity to truly look inside myself and examine who I am becoming, and what course corrections I must make in order to get to where I want to go. (Tweet this)
Whether the adjustments need to be made in my family dynamics, my spiritual wellbeing, or my professional expectations, it doesn’t really matter, as long as I get to inspect those areas of my life that get skimmed on a daily basis.
In all honesty, this is something I like to do more than once a year. It is something I believe we should all do as often as we possibly can. But for some reason the start of a new year always gets my gears turning, and helps me dig my heels on the ground as I determine to reflect on the parts of my life that are most important.
Time is nonrenewable. The minute that just went by? You can’t get it back. The year that just waltz through? It’s gone. That’s a good thing. Time always leaves its mark, through success or failure, through achieved goals or abandoned ones. Life is supposed to be about the negatives just as much as the positives. We can’t have one without the other. And when it comes to New Year’s resolutions, I like to think of them not as set goals I will most likely fail to achieve, but as possible failures that will one day lead me to success.
Victory doesn’t come without trying. And what are New Year’s resolutions, if not new opportunities to try?